How did you get connected with The Fatherless Daughter Project?
I was walking around downtown Decatur one Sunday and found this small bookstore. When I walked into the bookstore, I saw the Fatherless Daughter Project. I was so excited to see there was a book specifically for fatherless daughters! I immediately wanted to get connected with this project.
Can you tell us in a few sentences about your personal story of father loss?
My mother and father had me when they were freshmen in college. They did not stay together, and my mother and I moved away so I never formed a relationship with my father. I still see him from time to time. I think that if I was able to see the large hole growing inside of my heart from his absence I would have felt less indifferent about our relationship. As a little girl, I didn’t know I was missing out on important conversations about self-worth and self-respect, sex, and having healthy relationships with men. When I got to college I sought to fill that hole with anything or anyone who would give me attention.
What has been the biggest challenge being fatherless?
The biggest challenge being fatherless has been developing confidence in myself.
What has helped you to survive?
My support group at school, Daddyless Daughters, has helped me to survive. It helps to know that I am not alone and that I have a group of sisters that want to see me succeed.
Is there a special person(s) in your life that has helped you find healing?
I have found healing through my relationship with God. Psalm 68:5 says “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” God knows how important it is for us to have a father in our lives and cares so much about us that He wants to fill in that absence.
Where do you shine?
I shine in the classroom. I love to learn. I am currently a senior in college and I plan on getting my Master’s and Doctorate degrees.
What would you tell your younger self?
I would tell my younger self that she does need her dad. I spent a lot of time indifferent about my relationship with my dad. I told myself that I did not care whether he was in my life or not. This led me to not make attempts to have a relationship with him, and I also ignored any attempts he may have made to have a relationship with me.
If you could have a theme song, what would it be?
My theme song would be “Black Butterfly” by Deniece Williams. The song is all about being free to be the woman that you were born to be.
How do you hope to make a difference in the world?
I hope to make a difference in the world by sharing God’s love and following my unique purpose in life.
Fill in the blank: “The most amazing thing about my life is _______________.”
that I am just getting started.
Thanks, Jada. We are stronger with you in our sisterhood!